Getting out of a Rut with a Reset

It happens to all of us. Things can be going great – you feel like you’re hitting all your goals, conquering your to do list, and owning your wellness routine and then, all of a sudden you hit a “rut”. Oxford Language online dictionary defines a rut as “a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change“. No matter what you do or what those around you say, you just can’t seem to get out of that dull feeling. Though I haven’t been in a “rut” for 6 months since my last blog post, haha (hello again). I did hit a rut recently and needed to hit the “reset” button. So I figured, why not share how I handle a rut and hopefully it can help you too:


  • I’ve learned that there is nothing wrong with sharing your struggle. Most women, especially women of color, tend to believe we need to bear the burden and deal with it ALL on our own and that’s just not healthy. I am fortunate to have my mom as one of my best friends and she’s always ready to listen to one of her babies vent. Getting your feelings out is therapeutic. One of the best ways to get out of a rut is to actually admit you’re in a rut. I might not even know why I’m feeling the way I feel but verbalizing that I’m not “myself” helps. Don’t be afraid to talk to a friend, your partner, or your therapist about how you’re feeling.


  • In most cases, there is something that is causing the rut but it can be hard to identify. I like to take the time to really reflect on what is causing my emotional shift. A common trigger for me is clutter (physical = home is a mess; mental = too many items on my to do list). Whatever the reason, there is normally an actionable solution so the sooner I can identify a root cause the sooner I can try to fix it. Shifting those dull and unproductive feelings into a simple action point (like cleaning up your room) can be the first step out of your rut. Reflection is also a good time to just check in with myself. As a mom and wife that tends to always be in “go mode”, it’s important to take time and identify what can cause me to spiral into a rut in the first place. That way I can prevent it or at least know the signs going forward.


  • Once I’m ready to step out of my sweatpants and hoodie (which is my official rut uniform, haha), I hit the reset button. I use this phrase a lot, especially with my kids. If the morning is starting off “not so great” or our bedtime routine is “getting out of hand”, we simply say, “Ok, let’s reset”. Both of my kids know, this is almost like a “Get-out-of-Jail-Free” Monopoly card where we all need to take a deep breathe, forget what was just happening and start anew – same goes for having my own reset. When I’m in a rut, I’m normally slacking on my wellness habits like healthy eating, staying hydrated, getting a good night sleep and working out. In hitting that reset button, I begin to make the conscience effort to get back into my wellness routine for a full week. I make sure I’m getting to bed on time, setting boundaries when it comes to screen time (kids aren’t the only ones that need screen time limits), and making healthy meals at home instead of ordering out.

These actions normally get me back into better spirits and clears all the “ruts” away!

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